The BS only gets better every day! So we are two days away from the move out and last night Valentines night, it all breaks loose. You see my H hadnt told our SS18 (out of state). He was been calling but since my husband cant stand to be home, because he feels all the pain he is causing. Although I am a ray of sunshine and never ask about our R or M. So last night in a huge moment of weakness, I sobbed and cried to a girlfriend on the phone. She hung up and then the phone rang, I thought it was her but it was our S18 and of course he was concerned because I was crying. I told him that Dad wasnt home and he would have to call back. He pressed on but I told him that he had to speak to his father. He immediately called MIL and she (tired of the runaround) told him what was happening. He immediately tried his Dad but of course got his voicemail. Then called me back and we spent an hour crying together and trying to make sense of it all. I do not want him in the middle so I just reassured him that I loved him and our relationship would remain the same. My H finally arrived home and I told him how it was that he (SS18) found out and in a moment clarity he actually accepted responsibility. He knew he should have told him. He spoke to him briefly and told him his reasons. We then had a positive chat about us. I didn't not argue with him, I was just very supportive and told him that while I do not agree with him ending our marriage I understood that he "needs time". I told him that I am taking steps to be a better partner and I hope that he finds what he needs. I told him that we do not need to rush into anything and should just take some time to clear our heads. He asked that I not contact him after Saturday unless it urgent for at least two weeks. He stated, "I just want to be alone with my thoughts and on my own" I smiled politely and placed my hand on his knee and simply said, "Yes, I understand". He left our bedroom and I felt better about everything. I felt some closure and strength. Of course at 6:10 am this morning he was back in my bed cuddling with me. I said nothing and just held him.
My SS18 called me an hour ago and just wanted to touch base with me. I of course, told him that I couldn't change his father and only wish him the best. I assured him that he would not be in the middle of our issues.
Okay so the conversation my H had with our SS18 went like this:
1. She doesn't make me happy anymore 2. I don't love her 3. Had we had a child I would never leave (not having children was a mutual decision) 4. She knew we had problems, it should have been no surprise to her
ALLLLLL BS!!!!
I am livid with him. I feel like he is just making excuses for himself and throwing me under the train.
