Happy anniversary! I'm glad to hear H brought you flowers and a card. I think a card in return is very nice. I tend to go waaaay overboard about holidays and celebrations and that doesn't always seem like the best DBing to me. I give too much, do too much, fix too much... so I think him "doing more" is a good thing.
Although I don't think anyone should be comparing or competeing.
On the other hand, I can't help "overdoing" these kinds of things. That's just who I am. The good thing is I know I don't do them to try and make my husband "love me." (I realize now that's something I can't control), I do them because I enjoy it and it's just me.
By the way GH, I have some alcohol concerns with my husband too. I noticed about 6 months prior to the A his drinking increase (ex: never had alcohol in the house, except for entertaining at parties, but he started buying beer more regularly. In the past, it still happened, but was more rare). I think in my own sitch the alcohol/affair/MLC were somewhat connected.
