Heather, Why doesn't your H want you to take them to the karate shindig? I don't understand his objections.
I am not Corri, obviously, but if I want to do something with my kids I might say it like this: "I have a karate event on Sat and the kids and I will be there from 2-6. I'd like for you to come too, do you think you can make it?"
Or if it's an event I know he would disapprove of, I might say it like this: "Would you have a problem with me taking the kids to karate on Saturday?" and let him air his grievances.
I can't imagine that the warrior chick actually asks permission to take her kids somewhere! Is that really what you meant or was it like the above scenarios?
I've been reading your thread. I don't know what to say so I usually don't say anything but I'm reading and hoping for the best, if that's any consolation.
