As many of the MLC "symptoms" fit, so many do not.
For example:
I suspect that a recent W/OM meeting led to some sort of resolve on her part - don't know what, but she's happy about it.
I don't think she's calling things off with him, either.
Now, all the talk about me "letting her go" makes a lot of sense right now. (Never mind that the line between "letting go" and "abandonment" is nasty-thin.)
Her new therapist thinks she's as adjusted as a swiss watch. Our old MC thought that there were a bunch of things simmering under the surface.
Should I believe that they are all "fixed" all of a sudden?
Or is this some sort of "manic" phase of this nightmare?
In any case, I'm not in the picture, even though I'm a popular guy with her. Because the OM is way of of the way (I suppose), she wants to spend all her time with yours truly.
You know, I can detach all I want, but I have a choice between two different ways of doing it:
I can just back off entirely. Give her her space. GAL w/out her. Be polite, but not all that open. She'll really notice, probably resent it, and no doubt retaliate in kind.
(But this is the MLC strategy, correct?)
Or I can sort of play along, spend all sorts of time with her, listen to her complaints about the marriage, hear nauseating stories about the "cute" behavior of the OM, and validate until my validation organ falls off.
(And this is "you wife left you because her emotional needs weren't met" strategy)
?????
Detachment does not mean you ignore what's up. I'm trying to get my feet steady, but I'm in a quandry about how to respond to all this.
