H and I exchanged valentine's cards yesterday and I was blown away by his choice. It was a blatantly sexual card--not romantic at ALL--and he had written a bunch of...well, what amounts to a sexual invitation on the inside. I was so stunned that I just crammed it back in the envelope and sat there. I said thank you, of course, but my reaction was just utter speechlessness...blown away. I regrouped a bit and thanked him properly. Then D7 wanted to see the card and read (out loud) the words "getting it on" before I snatched it away from her. (chrome, yeah I know I gotta chill out..still I'm not ready for that)
Normally his cards can be sorted into two categories: sappy or religious. I got him a card that was neither romantic or religious, one of those totally forgettable middle of the road deals. However, I wrote a lot of praising, admiring junk on the inside which I know he loves and happens to be the truth, anyway.
So I've read and re-read my valentine's day card a LOT. It was so out of character for him! I mentioned this when he got home but I tried to do it in a way that didn't make him feel silly. I was reading the memoirs of Gene Wilder (don't ask how I arrived at that book, it was a circuitous route) and in it he described a woman he dated who had a weird style of speaking to him--"she complimented me and belittled me at the same time". I thought, Eureka! I do that!
I'm going to try reallllllllly hard to never do this again.
Anyway, MrH(ot) is completely throwin me for a loop. I love it. Not knowing what to expect appeals to the type 7 in me. I mean, what's next...lingerie?? I couldn't count how many flannel nightgowns I've received from VS because I asked for lingerie and he chickened out once he tried to purchase it and bought some granny lookin confection. If he continues on the path he's on, I'm predicting lingerie by my birthday.
Corri, thank you for the "light dims" snippet. How true. I don't think women can fully understand this until they live it..try both ways and see what happens. It takes a strong guy to weather these tests but what a reward he gets in the end.
