We each react to the others and continue the cycle.
Think about what you said. You 2 both REACT. How about if one of you doesn't react? Have you thought about seeking a DB coach?
It just seems that your W still has some major issues she needs to address and doesn't want to. It might be wise to seek professional counseling for both of you, but she has to be willing. Otherwise, try to get a one time session in with a coach. But the one thing you CAN do is to stop doing all the wrong things, like being needy, begging, fighting, etc. I know it's hard to do, but you need to let her process her emotions/issues/thoughts or whatever is going on with her.
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How do i stay patient and not blow it all the time?
OK. On this one you need to do one thing. LET HER GO. You are too co-dependent on her on that is not helping. You really need to picture a life for yourself without her, but treat her like you would a really good friend - you know, just like when you 2 met and started to date? That will help on your part in being patient again. If she sees you doing the RIGHT things in DB'ing, she will notice. ACT HAPPY, but go one step beyond and BE HAPPY.
I could go on and on, but I'm sure others will follow and post here too.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
