ladies, i had the going through the motions and the shakes. I'm in week 6 and I tell you those will go away or not be as often becuase I'm learning how to create my own happiness with my son. I think for so long, I depended on H to create happiness for us and I'm realizing how I can do it myself now and you know what, the results are much better! I've felt happier than I have in a long time! Seriously! Took my S3 sledding yesterday and while it was sad that H wasn't there, we had the best time!
So, look at this time as time for you and your children to focus on yourselves because when your H's see that, it makes you look so attractive! My H has said that to me and at the same time, it kills them to see how happy you can be without them and they wonder how and why and though it doesn't make sense, that is what can bring them back to you.
My H had a little of a turnaround this morning. He actually texted me that he still loves me and that is why he is so depressed and cries when he sees me. I'm not holding too much hope on this as I expect him to believe that we still need to get divorced to get through this but I'm taking baby steps and in the meantime, focusing on myself and my son. The rewards far outweigh the results!
the forcing feelings will give way to feelings that come so easily and that creates happiness!


Me 31
WAH 30
M 5
Together 14 years
S 4
divorced 7/11/07