He cannot get over the OW help us...

[Heartbroken]

H is staying home this weekend while I and the two kids go for an extended family waterpark weekend in WI dells (we live in MI). Kids were rather upset that he is not going - we said that Daddy needs some alone time. Did not lie about it...

He wants to look for apts while we are gone. I am starting LRT with no calls or pursing at all during the day, upbeat and positive at night (around him) but we are still hugging and just sleeping in the same bed. He will have sex with me if I want but I am not sure that is a good idea - it messes me up emotionally. I did ask him right out if he wants to D and he says he is not sure. He says once he moves out we can still have some family dinners (he picks up the kids at night and will bring them home). My question is do I continue "playing house" with him or do the full blown LRT - my therapist feels its too early for him to move out and if he does we need to be talking a lot - diff than LRT... Please help!

Me 41
H 44
Married 16 yrs 9/15/90
D (12)
S (9)
1st Bomb 8/9/06
2 Bomb truth of OW 1/6/07