Glenda, So many similarities in situations and read the same here over and over. Am ready to go with divorced and done rather than the forum title. At least divorced and just want to be left alone by ex. Don't think there is any advice at this point that would have impact. Everyone chooses their own path in life. Same here, ex said was for the move then pulled out at last minute to be w/om. My siblings and parents had passed away also, still have S16 and S14 with me, xw didn't even ask for them let alone fight. Suppose I'll always care for xw but love, in addition to being a choice, takes takes some effort or if not goes away, goes into hibernation, which is where I think I'm at now, even after 24 yrs marriage at age 47.
It is odd how that when I entered the dating pool in was mostly people that were least attractive to me were somehow attracted by me, there were a few diamonds among the coal but again, the whole relationship thing seems like such an effort figured I'm not ready for that and taking a break there also. Seems like when I take a break from things that they turn around and happen on their own. Think there are too many movies that make some women think that if they don't get hit by lightining when their eyes first meet a guy, then they should keep looking until it does. Doesn't work that way with me, at best is a "hey, I might get to like this gal" and connect a few dates later. Well, thanks for sharing, RonJon
