Heywyre, I believe by looking at and appreciating all the wonderful things that happen to us along the way, even on this journey, we will pull ourselves through. I have to remind myself of all the incredible things I have done for myself over the past few years, things I never even dreamed of doing and all because of this horrible sitch I'm in. I have grown in so many ways, am a better, fuller person and have developed supports I never had before. If my M goes down the toilet, I won't be going with it. That is something to be both proud of and thankful for! I wonder if my W can say the same about her life? She might have another R but I'd still rather be me!