Time to Rebuild

[Jen_Jam]

No worries Happy, I realise you do get a bashing for some of your posts but this time you were spot on! Something I had been considering myself the very day you posted.
So - bearing in mind that I have been slipping slightly into "old me" I decided to stop right there and do a 180.
Have now done the following:
Let H do exactly what he wants for V day (and it's been wonderful)
H has a cold and coughs all night - old me used to get angry with him, now I just ignore it and find I can sleep OK. H then worries he's woken me up, I tell him I had a great night's sleep.

I'm also waiting for the next chance when H mentions something I would wnat to say no to, and I'm going to say YES with no discussion or explaination. So far the 180's seem to be having a good effect, so can't be bad.

Happy Again thank you for pulling me up on this, I was slipping back into old me mode, when I was in DB mode a let a lot of things go and they didn't make me any unhappier than I would have been anyway. So I'm going back to a bit of that - less discussing with H, less disagreeing with H. I'll come here to vent instead if I really feel I need to. H has been good to me, he deserves a break, and I would do well to remember that he belongs to nobody but himself.

OK - post over - thank you for listening. I've made a commitment to be more laid back with H, pull me up if I don't keep to that!!