Piecing Advice

[Jen_Jam]

SD - quick one. This is normal, the feeling of anger. I felt a little angry at your H when I read your post.
It helped me, when I felt angry at my H, along the lines of "don't you realise the months of s**t you've put me through!?!" was to remember that I put him through my own special brand of s**t. I helped create the situation and H had had his time of feeling low like I did.
You certainly have it in you to NOT play the blame game, all I can suggest now is DB yourself - remember patience? How you had to give loads to H? Well give yourself loads now. You WILL come through this, but it will take time.
I have felt like walking off myself at times BUT that's not the answer. I'm still getting it wrong at times, still suffer from some bitterness and still have to drown out some of the old me. I'm starting to believe that Piecing takes at least as long, if not longer, than DB'ing. Then we have to go into R maintainence mode, which will be for the rest of our lives.

Take it easy SD, you've come a long way, and you have all the tools to get through this. If you feel the need to vent you've got these boards. Well done for not taking it out on H and not slipping into the old you - I have been a little bit lately, got pulled up on it thankfully.