OK, sounds like you want to mess with her head, and give her a sort of "wake up call". But from what you described your sitch to be, it seems like she's in MLC and you're her doormat. Am I close?
As far as seeing other people while you're still M, it just isn't right, no matter how you slice it. Your own values are being compromised, but I know where you're coming from. If you wanted to see other people, then why not just end it with her and D? I guess I'm about values and I am sure I wouldn't cross that line regarding stepping outside my M to get my needs met.
You know how to DB, but now it seems like it's time to work on you and completely detach from her (without seeing other women that is). If you want her to fall in love with you again, you know what to do. Be that attractive man again, if you want to save your M. Otherwise, you need to move on.
Let me tell you about what I would do if my W cheated on me a second time. I would just leave. I couldn't handle the pain and suffering again - it was TOO INTENSE for me, and I couldn't survive another infidelity from her. Oh, and I would NOT get involved with someone else if I were still M, whether I wanted to save it or not. Something about values and self respect that burns in my conscience.
I do agree that she needs a kick in the A$$. But show her what she is really going to be missing, you know?
So here's the question: Do you still want to save your M?
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
