(I didn't realize your thread was closed until just now)
I have a sister at church who is faithfully fellowshipping even thought her H is not a believer, In that sense she has another life (GAL) at church.
You can love your H, be respectful and not nasty (because of the hurt) while also not being needy or clingy. How you do this, the Lord will show you for your specific marriage. I think this is a good forum to puruse the best archived advice as well as things that are working for others currently posting. Another resource to revisit is Rejoice Ministries (resource page)
If your marriage is to survive, the Lord will show you. He will use people here, at church, Rejoice Ministries, a radio message etc. But mostly, it will be through the word of God and through the Holy Spirit. Your growing sensitivity to His still small voice will lead you and point you to the people, threads and resources he has for you. The Spirit will bring to rememberance verses et.
Ash, my journal is filled with accounts of encounters with people, messages, events etc. where God has guided me to a place of healing and His "peace that passes all understanding." Will my marriage be restored? Only God knows but I am GAL every day and it is fulfilling. My eyes are no longer focused on what X is doing but are focused on what I can do for the Lord.
Though you are still in the same house and I am officially D and living apart from my X, you can still pursue your own GAL, keep your eyes on the Lord, serve Him in your own way and continuously pray for H.
When parents have a prodigal child (regardless of the age), they love and pray for that prodigal. At some point, they may have to employ tough love for the prodigal's own best interest. Maybe the Lord wants the prodicgal to fall and fall hard without being bailed out of their circumstances by the parent? Maybe it is then and only then that the prodigal will quit fighting the Holy Spirit and surrender fully to the Lord.
p.s. I did post the valentine message and look how the Lord even led you there (I wanted to keep it separate from my journaling which is why I posted that way)
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
