Met in 2000. Lived together for a year in 2002. Got married in 2003. Got the bomb in 2006. I'm 39 now and she's 32.
Someone posted something in my own thread about friendship. It somehow got to me and made me feel a lil better about my decision. Someone posted along the same lines that "Frienship is a good thing. Friendship opens doors to other opportunities." I figured, we started off as friends so it can't hurt to get back to being friends.
In my case, I believe having children was also an issue. Though we were both in agreement about having children, the pressure was so thick I could cut it with a knife (at least for me). It was as if the act was so mechanical and at times I wasn't even up to it. Had I known then what I know now, I could've cared less whether it was mechanical or otherwise. I've been dark since we separated and so far it's been having an affect on her. The only problem is the sitch now is rather complicated bsed on recent revelations. One that I hope no one here would or should ever have to go through. I just hope (and pray) I am making the right decisions.
Hang in there man. Be friendly towards her when you do interact with each other. Keep your head up and do a little makeove and get a life. Make a list of what you think you might need to improve on or something you've always wanted to do and do them. Everything should be in moderation of course and by all means within your budget. Do something with your dogs. One thing that worked for me is this site called Meetup.com I looked up and signed up with groups that had the same interests as I do and took it from there. And what's great about it is that it's free!
Here's link to my sitch....I started this before she left so that should explain the title. Take what you can from it (not that there might be any) and leave what you don't need. Need some guidance with soon to be WAW!
