Muddle, I had the same problem with my W's belief that I should always know what she needed without being told. I was to be a mindreader. It's not a reasonable nor realistic demand to put on anyone but she is emotionally at a point where that's what she wants/needs. That is her issue, I can only try to be respectful and as caring as I can be but, yes, just like your W, it's her issue. It's not like I can sit down and say "How can I read your mind better?" I've tried to discuss things but in her view there is no compromise, I can do it or I can't. I empathize with your sitch!
