Yep, that's my problem - just how to adjust "strategy" while remaining genuine and how to "detach" while remaining "in the game".
Now for the issue of professional help...
My W is seeing someone later on. I'm hoping that they are not the "discard the marriage" type and that they see some of her other problems (not eating, for example) not as symptomatic of a "bad marriage," but as being caused by underlying issues.
As I write that, it sounds incredibly self-serving. Sometimes I wonder whether it would be simply better for my W to believe whatever she wants, if that genuinely helps her out of what she's in right now.
