Wanted to share something H said to me regarding why he isnt' affectionate w/me. We do ML, but other than that I get no ILY nor kisses nor hugs.
He told me he is still scared that things will go back the way they were, that if he gives affection it will be like loosing control again and that I will use sex as a tool. He doesn't feel he can trust again to give himself and put himself on that vulnerable position again.
Just throwing this out, and remember inpain, we've been together for almost 10mths, and still he is feeling this way. Why? because for too long our SL was weak and that he felt I used sex to punish him, which in a way I did. Remember, it takes a while for trust to come back. I also didnt' get much the first months, easy does it, it will get better, it seems he is trying, give it time friend.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
