To myself, Happy Anniversary!! H left a beautiful card with a dozen long stem red roses for me this morning!! It sure made my day. Unfortunately all I had for him was a card as I planned on going out yesterday but we had a huge snow storm and I was stuck inside. Will pick up a little something on my way home from work today.
Sounds great Mama. I think your major struggle is not to trust your H, it's in trusting yourself to be able to handle things not going well if you give in to the process and stop second-guessing everything.
You can handle it but with any luck at all, you won't have to. Stay the course and have a GREAT Valentines day!
Sounds great Mama. I think your major struggle is not to trust your H, it's in trusting yourself to be able to handle things not going well if you give in to the process and stop second-guessing everything.
Wise words. I need to copy them in to my own thread!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Mama,, Hope you have a delicious,happy,fun Valentines Day. Keep up the PMA it is contagious. I am so proud of you,,, you've come a long way baby. Enjoy the day and your blessings. ~~Happy Annivesary!! God bless.... Ali
Happy anniversary! I'm glad to hear H brought you flowers and a card. I think a card in return is very nice. I tend to go waaaay overboard about holidays and celebrations and that doesn't always seem like the best DBing to me. I give too much, do too much, fix too much... so I think him "doing more" is a good thing.
Although I don't think anyone should be comparing or competeing.
On the other hand, I can't help "overdoing" these kinds of things. That's just who I am. The good thing is I know I don't do them to try and make my husband "love me." (I realize now that's something I can't control), I do them because I enjoy it and it's just me.
By the way GH, I have some alcohol concerns with my husband too. I noticed about 6 months prior to the A his drinking increase (ex: never had alcohol in the house, except for entertaining at parties, but he started buying beer more regularly. In the past, it still happened, but was more rare). I think in my own sitch the alcohol/affair/MLC were somewhat connected.
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