Muddle, it appears what your W did was take revenge on you by attempting to embarrass you in public. The funnny thing is all she did was make herself look worse than you could have done even if you were trying! It's quite OK to want something to be done or not done but what it comes down to is how you work with the other person to make it so. If she sincerely wants you to not mention PAYLESS in front of others then she should bring it up with you in a way that will get her what she wants. Obviously what she wants is to lash out and hurt! So for you to address every little complaint is probably a cheesless tunnel, it's not what is really going on. In my example, W waited to get back to hotel to address it with me as opposed to lashing out in public, this in turn, made me more open to changing my behaviour. Your W isn't looking for a solution here, just wants to vent and lash out. But, I'm sure that's not news to you! Take care.
