Just an update. Not alot going on in the homefront. I have stopped calling H and have decided to give him absolute space. A few weeks ago, he was determined that he wanted a D. There were a few days that he was suppose to come over to see the kids and didn't. I didn't call him and didn't show him how angry it made me that he wasn't keeping his word. So when he did call and told me that he has been doing some thinking, it confused me but put new light into the sitch. He has called me mostly and I have tried to keep it light. We now joke around on the phone and when he does come over.
The other night while he was here, he mentioned again that he has been doing alot of thinking. His comment was "Some things have been going on and I have had to take a step back and do some thinking." He said that he would tell me what he has been thinking about but not right now. Then looked at me and said "is that ok?" I said "yeah" I just asked him if I should take that as a good or bad sign. He said "take it however you want." So no real answer there.
I am praying that OW is continuing her quest of being ignorant and he is seeing that his fantasy world really isn't all that great. That the family he has here is worth the fight. Who knows. Only time will tell.
Ben has already smacked me around and told me to see the good signs. I am. I just need to keep my distance and stay patient. "All in good time, all in good time." (quote from Wizard of Oz)
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Thanks, I need as many prayer warriors as I can get.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Not sure yet. They will definitly bee there the after I move into my APT on the 24. But it will not be until the first week of March when I have them again.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Will do thanks...Once everything is said and done I will be able to keep the kids on a consistan sched. Just sucks that it has to be this way from now.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Just an update....just spent 20 minutes talking to H. I was picking up D4's glasses at the eye doctor and he called. I told you that I was leaving him alone. I have not called him. So anyways, we talked for 20 minutes. A little about this, a little about that...but NO R talk. When we ended the call, I said "So, I will talk to you later on?" and he said "Sounds good."
So give me a good slap because now I am thinking that the hope is alive and well and something is really going downhill with OW. I am glad...just worried that this will get me going again, just to drop me on my freaking butt all over again....I know, I know. Only believe half of what they say. But his attitude towards me and him calling me has really given me renewed hope. In the past, if I wouldn't call him, he would go days without talking to me. Now he is calling me everyday.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Live with the baby steps sister, his ride will come to an end. Keep doing what you are doing and let him keep initiating the calls. What you are doing by this is removing his safety blanket. If you ask me he does not have the balls to file for a D and the simple fact that you were holding him so tight proved that he could come back whenever he wanted to. Remove that safety blanket and make him realize what he is going to be loosing out on. Do not be mena about it do it lovingly just like you are. No more I love yous or the dorr is open anymore. Just talk to him like he is a freind and leave it at that. Let him keep pursuing you. You are doing great. Do not give in to temptation and let him know that you are waiting around for him. Got it.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
