HM, I don't have an answer, but I think they're just all over the map with how they feel. I can tell you that my H and i were having better sex (oops, did I just say that out loud?) and more often than we had in along time. I'm thinking that some of the things I had been trying were working (of course opening communicating wasn't one of them b/c he wouldn't). So here we are, then guess what? You got it, the bomb. I'm like you I want to read good stuff into some of what he does. I work really hard at not. I like the term alien that is used alot here b/c sometimes I see the man I married alot of times I don't. I do see lots of hurt, anger and confusion (I'm not sure he sees the confusion, he claims to know what he wants). We can do this though. We can take care of ourselves and be who we are meant to be. Hugs.
