Muddle, no offense taken! It's a good question. I corrected her in front of someone else over something that was really unimportant. She was and is sensitive to looking "stupid" in front of others. So my job is to not do that to her when I know she is this way. If it is important, I can take her aside, give my reasoning and she can change her mind herself. In the case of left over food, it really didn't matter. I just stated that I would try not to do that in future. So this was something I was able to identify and she had the courage to tell me. To me correcting her didn't seem to be a big deal, but to her it was, so I try to respect that. I didn't feel bad but committed to being more mindful of not "correcting" her in front of others. I saw this as co-operating not pandering to her issues. I have my sensitivities too and would appreciate her being aware and respectful of those as well. Now, if my W uses her sensitivities to beat me into the ground, then that's a different story.
