Well, I don't really get the "want to be married to me" thing. So far, the best I've gotten is the "so afraid to come back to this marriage" talk.
Since this makes me sound like Jack Nicholson in The Shining, I should say that I'm not an entirely horrible human being. But the W does feel very hurt ("damaged" actually) by "living in my shadow" and "losing her sense of who she is."
But right now, she definitely does not want to be married to me.
Of course, she calls me about five times a day, sleeps with me about four days out of the week (at least), eats dinner with me, wants to work out with me, etc. etc. etc.
But not be married.
(For example, she gets very nervous if I seem too amorous ;), although she thinks nothing of undressing in front of me. I feel like some sort of geek "friend" in a teen movie.)
So I'm curious about all this. I'd like to get a handle on how to think about it; even though I'm not going to "trust" any one view all that much, it would be nice to have a sense that what is going on is not just chaotic madness.
Is this really a MLC?
Detaching works better when you are at least somewhat settled in your understanding.
