I hear you. The problem with my W is that she vacillates between relatively healthy behavior and pretty bad stuff.
For example, she is scheduled to see someone about her problems. After she's come back from her little tryst (about which I know nothing), she's been trying to eat.
But she's also admitted suicidal thoughts. She has not said anything positive about the marriage, but in fact once more went into how hurtful and destructive it was for her. She is friendly to me, but I can see an underlying hostility. This even though she tries to spend all her free time with me.
I've been reading over what makes up a MLC, and while some of it fits, other things do not really make sense.
What do you all think about this? Is is best to understand it as a MLC or as the WAW "syndrome".
I ask because in the one case (MLC) I back away more. In the other, it seems best to work at demonstrating understanding of her feelings (which ALSO requires trying to take advantage of any opportunity to do so).
Detachment, OK. But exactly how, and in what way with regard to how I interact with the W?
