NO, It's soo bad in my case that my W thinks it's justified because we are seperated. WOW! what kind of addiction is that. I think I would be better off if it was heroin. At least there is places for that. And it's illegal. She said she wished I would go see somone else, to take the guilt away, but I told her I couldn't because I was totally committed to her. (maybe just should be committed) haha.
I gave her a good guilt trip yeasterday, and I know it's not DBing, but I think it really needed to be said.
They need to lie because it adds to the excitement. IF they were up front, and you didn't get upset, they would not be having that rush. Remember when you were a kid, getting away with something was such big excitement. Thats what it is, I caught my W in a lie with her cousin. She was supposed to be there(we were trying then) and when I called her cousins house she freaked and told me she had to run to the store. I called my W's cell phone right after and it was busy. Called back and listend to her messege: "Oh my God, He just called and I was totally expecting it to be you. I told him you were at the store, you need to call him right away" When she called, I questioned her and she wouldn't tell me where she was. Thats when we fell into this hole again.
I hope it's worth it to her, because the pain I feel now and the pain my S will have when he gets old enough to realize it, is not worth it to me.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
