Thanks OT. I kinda figured you'd see it that way. No matter. At this point, while I am surely NOT saying I don't need any help, I am in a place where I feel pretty comfortable doing what I think is right for my marriage. Getting angry, in most any situation, because my W or kids don't act the way I expect them to is NOT going to help.
My W clearly has issues that we may have to work through together and I think the first step in doing that is to let her see that no matter what, I am going to be WITH her, not against her. So far, when it comes to certain issues, she probably feels that I am anything but supportive of her, and rightfully so.
Mama, I know where you are coming from with your recent decisions. I think you owe it to yourself to do what you feel is right so long as it's based on fully acknowledging what the facts are and choosing to take or not take certain actions. You have to live with the situation as it is, not any of us. We are here to help, advise and comfort you if need be but as you already know, we can't live your life for you.
I think you taking steps to make yourself happy and improve your situation so far as you alone can do so is the right path. Your H will either join you in that endeavor or not.
In my opinion, he seems pretty MLC right now and maybe he just isn't ready to get to the level you want him to be at but I do believe that if you can manage to maintain your positive momentum, it will go a long way towards ensuring not only your happiness but also in helping him see what a wonderful woman he's letting slip away.
