Don't Trade Our Love For Tea & Sympathy

[Heywyre]

I agree that snooping is not right, however as far as the invasion of privacy is concerned I would have to comment on that.

What is the "invasion" affects someone else - i.e. ME!!! A perfect example was H the other day. We got into a huge discussion (heated of course) over his visa bill. We have always paid both his and mine off each month, now I see his has been at 7-10,000 for the past few months (that I know of). I never checked before but registered our joint account online because of direct deposits I was getting from a new employer. There, in full view, was the balance on his account. I can't access the details of where the money went, but I had a fit (inside that is). When I calmed down I confronted him. Why? because even though it is his credit card, it comes out of a joint account - his and MINE!! So half that visa bill is my money - plain and simple. Therefore I have a right to know. We ended up with him saying he would walk away from the R if I pressed him any further on it but I thought "hmmm, if that's all our R is worth to you right now, I'm gonna fight back" so I called him on it and he admitted it was spent on the OW. However, yesterday I brought it up at the C office again. He said "it was the principal of the matter". H wasn't too pleased but I was thrilled because the C agreed with me basically and told H that when he is confronted with something that makes him vulnerable, he evades it and uses confrontation, anger etc to deal with it, it had nothing to do with principal and everything to do with him not feeling in control.

Then, after we left the office, H got violently ill (food poisoning from something he ate earlier) - hmmm, wonder if someone is trying to tell him something. As a matter of fact, he was rather nice to me today, even brought me a tea at work