I may or may not be enabling my wife's possible drinking problem but I KNOW I am currently enabling myself to be happy. I am not in denial about our "issues" but my approach thus far in our marriage has led to a lot of unhappiness and I don't want any more of that.
I know there is something to be said for calling this the "stick your head in the sand" approach but I don't see it as that. I know what the problems are and I choose to react in the way I am. I don't pretend there is no problem at all.
I am totally comfortable with how I handled that, even more so because I think it represents maybe the most powerful 180 I have ever done and that feels good to me.
