Fearless, your comments about arguing with a lawyer are very much to the point. And Matelo said it perfectly: hd's statement about wanting sex once a week isn't so much a want as a statement of who he is.
Hd is sticking his neck out, revealing something that is important to him, with no apology, defense, excuse, persuasion, logic, argument. Technically, he is not even making a request; he is only making a statement. Frankly, I think this is beautiful.
Why? Because it is ACTIVE and not RE-active. He is not doing her thinking for her or trying to figure her out or trying to please her. He is making a simple statement that is perfectly reasonable for a husband to make to a wife.
Mrs. HD is reacting as though he is asking for something outrageous and impossible. It's not just that she's saying "no"-- she is disgusted and repulsed by his very request.
Get this, from hd's first post this morning
Quote:
W: You know, it's nice when you snuggle up to me in the morning, but sticking your penis in my azz and grabbing my boob doesn't work for me. I don't like that. [hd note: although there are moments when morning wood comes into contact with her buns, there is no "sticking" going on, no anal, no nothing]
How do you reason with this kind of thinking? How do you respond gently to this kind of comment? Why bother responding to this kind of comment?
At this point, what SHE wants is not his business. He is stating what HE wants, and she can respond as she sees fit. Who knows? Meaningful communication might occur.
Since all old posts seem to have been lost, it's no longer possible to read far enough back in hd's story to get the big picture.
