LFL, the only thing I feel sure about is that this is something different to try.
When you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got. So if you want change, do ANYTHING different.
You said you stated your wants for years and y'all "went in circles." They aren't going in circles, because he isn't discussing it, just stating it. If you don't run, there can't be any running in circles.
