I know I will probably get to a point where I am frustrated with H about the sexual relationship again. That seems to be an inevitable part of this R
Well, the SL that is lacking may be inevitable but your frustrations about it aren't. We've discussed owning our own feelings ad nauseum on this board but I think it really does fit here again.
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I will never get to the point of being a doormat about this. I will never go happily without sex for weeks on end, never feel like I don't want an H who chases me around the house with an ice cube for nefarious purposes...(
I don't think you would be a doormat for surrendering a little bit of your wants here. I've gone weeks without sex and maintained a happy R with H. Am I thrilled he's not chasing me with the ice cubes? No. But I choose to focus now on the positive. It can be done. Just because you have a "want" doesn't mean it is going to be met. Hairdog kept talking about wants on his thread. His W came right back at him saying she Wants things to and listed off a few. Doesn't mean she is going to get them. I think the real problem in many M on this board is not that the Want is not being met, but that you don't feel like your spouse cares. I little care and understanding can go a long way.
On a weather note, it's been in the single digits here and we are going to get slammed with snow tonight. Maybe I won't have to go to work tomorrow!
