how to keep calm and patient??

[inpain]

Hi L

S has fractured a bone in his arm bless him. He has a cast on. He doesn't seem to be in much pain now thank goodness - he is just getting frustrated because he cannot play with his toys as well as before. I was drying my hair ready to go out and H was sat with S on our bed. S started jumping about like they do and fell off. Of course he hasn't learnt from the experience he still wanted to try jumping on it again the next day!!! We took him to the hospital again today and it looks like he can have the cast taken off in 2 weeks because they heal really quickly when they are so little.

And that is a great idea to filter your questions through here first.

Yeah I think so too. In fact I think I need to post more on here like I was before H came back. Asking everyone's opinion instead of just jumping in feet first - after all it worked well enough to bring him home!

Don't worry about his answer, he may have been thinking alot about it already anyway, and this way it's out in the open

I think he has been thinking about it a lot you're right. That is what he says is making his head feel like it will explode because he knows I want to and knows he doesn't but doesn't know why!?!? (figure that out) I am really worrying about what the answer will be. Wish he'd said he'd answer in 24 hours not 48 then my wait would nearly be over. I'm thinking of offering him a deal back saying to forget the question and just try to kiss me and see how you feel but I suppose that's an even worse idea than waiting for this dreaded answer!

Plus, what if his answer is just that he wants to make sure it's right for you both

I suppose it could end up being a good answer - I'm not very good at positive thinking I always look on the negative side. I just can't think of a positive answer to that question. When he first moved back in he said it was because he wouldn't do anything like that until he was sure it was going to work and he was staying. He pretty much keeps saying he's not going anywhere yet he still doesn't want to. To be honest I think he has just built it up to be a big deal so much in his head and told himself over and over that it isn't right if you're not together that he's just blocked all those kind of feelings out and can't find them. I keep suggesting taking things real slow like just a massage or kissing but he doesn't want to do that either.

Guess I'll just have to wait and see but if you think of any other possible positive answers for me to keep telling myself I'd love to hear them.