I think she is asking you to open up to her more there. Did you tell her an honest answer? Only you know what that totally honest answer is, but maybe something along the lines of: I'm growing to resent you and think of you as a real B*itch. I'm having bad thoughts about having an affiar, or leaving or.....etc. You get the idea. NOT some lame answer like I want emotional closeness, sexual closeness, blah, blah. I doubt she will think you deserve it. You can clean every room in that house, fetch her dinner, say the sweetest things, but deep down she knows you are full of sh*t. You are NOT being honest with her or building respect.
I think you are wrong. You might be right. It's too soon to tell.
I have told her all these things before, many times. She belittles my statements about emotional closeness, well, about the same way you just did. "blah blah." And mentioning an affair or leaving the marriage, it is not the way to engender respect with her. It is threatening and will force us further apart.
Asking to make love once a week is more than just sex. It is about being honest -- with myself. It is about getting my own self respect back. It is about being the person that I've put away for so long in order to placate her. It's about being a husband.
Yes, I hope to have a greater understanding of her after all of this. Yes, I hope to have a greater respect for her. Whether I will, or not, it's just too soon to tell.
