BI I wanted to ask you, how do you stop yourself snooping. I know its not good, infact when ever I do do it and find something out I feel horrid after, but the reason I do it is because I do not want to be left in the dark, I would rather be hurt now and face the truth then to bury my head in the sand. H assures me that the OW does not contact him, but I know she does, the message left on his phone today was first a joke, and then telling him how she liked his text. I deleted the voicemail as I don't want him talking to her, but it just makes me aware that they are still in contact & he is lying once again to me. One thing for you is that your H did break it off, I know a couple of months after you found out, but he broke it off - not you telling him to.
