Might help to add an "I'm no longer willing to live in a sexless marriage, and I'd prefer it to be with you. Whether or not is is with you is within your control. " next time it comes up.
I would advise against this, as this turns it into a threat, AND allows her fodder for distraction. Keep it clean and sharp, like the point of a needle (or scalpel).
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Have you asked her why she seems to dislike sex so much?
Again... material for distraction.
Keep her ON task, ON message, ON point. Like forcing her down a funnel... or into one of those pens where they corral cattle. (Bad image.)
HD, how did you feel during these transactions? Fear? Anxiety? Nervousness?
Did she react as strongly as you FEARED she would?
