I am not an expert by any stretch but here is my (vague) opinion on
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Do husband & wives grow apart if they are not growing at the same pace
I think people need to be different, that is what keeps the R alive. However, if you are very different on fundamental issues, things you just won't budge on, then I think it can become a real problem. For instance, if you come from a family that was relatively poor and your S came from a relatively wealthy one, I think it would be difficult to bridge those differnces because neither one would understand where the other one was coming from. Another sore spot can be their spiritual beliefs
The C we are going to see talked about "sacred waters" in a marriage - i.e. boundaries, and said that although certain people have basic morals etc that are the same, sometimes their boundaries regarding those issues vary and that is what causes the tension/problems. I know my H and I have the same basic foundation to get through this but I also know that his boundaries are VERY different from mine - I am much more conservative and he is on the far side of liberal (if he can push the limit, he will).
I don't think reading vs not reading is a major issue, as that is more a hobby than anything. However, if it creates a problem in that you would like to have someone that talks to you about the issues that you are reading about (i.e. world events) and that person cannot converse with you, then it could become an issue.
We all have different likes and dislikes, I guess it all depends on how important those likes and dislikes are to you and your S.
Hope that helped a little
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
