Suspicion confirmed

[Ophelia]

So sorry you're in this position, Sweetpea. My MIL found out about FIL's A several years back in a similar way. One of her friends had seen a car she didn't recognise parked in their driveway during the day when MIL was at work, so she mentioned it to her, and sure enough....

Your H sounds quite similar to mine, (only going to counselling in the interest of me getting closure....denying MLC when it's suggested). You'll come to see that they're all quite similar. I've found that reading threads on the MLC board, as well as threads where former WASs share their views, (like this one) has really helped me to see this crazy sitch in a slightly more rational light.

I suppose the question you're really asking is if you should let him know that you know? If you do confront him about it, just try to stay as calm as possible. My H just flat out told me about his A, (which he doesn't actually consider to be an A, as he's just "moving on"), and I had such an emotional and uncontrolled reaction that I haven't had any contact with him since. The way I handled it just drove him even further away and now he basically wants no contact with me ever again. So as impossible as it feels to keep your cool in this sitch, you really have to try, otherwise you'll just make it worse. Take it from someone who knows first hand!