that's pretty much it...h has left some clothes here.. he joined me sat night to the casino with my friends...had a good time...this am I "let" him sleep in while I got up and attended to the kiddos...then woke him at 9:30 so I go shower and go off to use a gift certificate he had given me last year for christmas...a roman holiday at a spa...manicure, 1hr pedicure, 1 1/2 hr facial, hair, make up and lunch!! aaahhhhh the life... I fell asleep twice... h had called my cell at 5 is to see how I was enjoying the day...I finished up there called him he said no rush was just seeing how your day was going..so off I went to pick up one of dd's christmas presents..and then came home...h was very complimentative and then asked me to sit in front of the fire with him.... it being sunday he's off to watch a game with his bud...I assumed he'd not be comming home but he said he will...I still will not expect him just incase he gets to tired to drive up as his appartment is right there...h is....well I don't know...h is finally being a h...somebody pinch me...crapper that this all had to happen ow and all....I think I finally believe there was no pa..(ok so the thoughts creep in every once in a while, but the way I look at it now is oh well sweetie you may have had him for a bit but this man was is and always will be my man!! so nani nani poo poo!!!)
ok enough already....I won't be posting much for a while as it seems that there is not a whole lot to say other than h is being affectionate, physical, loving, considerate, playful, friendly, compasionate....and all those other things I thought he would never be to me... so those who read here...if you want to say hi please do..I still read everyday...If you want to ask any questions of me feel free...I am no pro dbr... but what I did worked...and know that it can work for you too!!
Hey LL, You better keep posting. I enjoy our interaction no matter what the issue, but I'd much rather hear all the happy affection filled posts anyway. After everything you've been through and now you are seeing such positive results. We want to hear all about it... it helps us to keep up our DBing efforts.
LL, I agree. I am new to this, and your story gives all of us hope. Please keep posting and lifting our sprits. And we hope that someday, we can share our own success stories.
Good Luck!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Thank you so much for sharing this. It gives all the rest of us hope when we read a success story like your. Sounds like your H is definitely coming round and has been released from being one of the pod people
You have given me so much encouragement, first by posting on my own thread with advice and also with sharing your success story. It has given me hope.
I'm sure there will be days when I have an issue or something to say, a major step, or an issue I'm having difficulty with...this is after all a new r and I cannot resort back to my old ways else h will resort to his (and that doesn't mean ow, it means neglecting me!) when I say I wont be posting much...I mean it seems there is not a whole lot to say right now...I am feeling more confident with each passing day in regard to h actually comming home and us having a very very rewarding r.. I don't want to bore you all with all the daily (nightly) details of how things are going...I remember what it was like when I was in the trenches searching through the board and came across people who were getting to cuddle with the once was...just know that there is hope for you...but sadly it usually comes to you once you reside to the fact that it wont.. LL
ok so as soon as I say I wont be posting much things happen that I have to share....for those of you that are down and not at this point yet don't despair know that you can get here too!!!
so h just called at 11ish...from his appartment..h and buddie ended up there to watch the game....h sounded down...said he wanted to be here...that he shouldn't have gone down cause he was tired and now he is there and tired but wants to be here...he may still come up but doesn't want me to wait up incase he drifts off to sleep (wich is a huge possibility and I wouldn't blame him, he did have the kids all day) if he doesn't come up tonight it will mean he will be closer to work in the am, get an earlier start and be home earlier...bla bla bla
Now, that's what I like to hear. That is very uplifting. It gives hope to us all. I hope and pray that you will continue to have such good posts to share with us...and I hope that some more of us will eventually be able share such positive progress. LL - you Rock!
Oh those three little words....You better not give up on all of us here. We need to hear from you every once and awhile. There is always hope, and the old saying is "It's always darkest before the dawn" or something like that!! Enjoy Sue
Gosh.....Those 3 words....what I wouldn't have done a couple months ago to hear that!! Now I'm not sure how I'd react. It's highly unlikely my W would say it, but if she did I don't know for sure? 11 months of indifference has definitely had a detrimental affect on my feelings for her.
But I am so happy for you! Please continue to post....when things are going well it's not as juicy but folks tend to fall off the BB when things turn around for them, just when they could do the most good!
