Sweetpea, I am sorry...I am going through the same thing. My H is having an affair...makes me sick to my stomach and I seem to obsess about it daily...where is he?? What is he doing? Is he going to spend Valentines day with her and buy her gifts using our $$?? My mind rages on... I really put my 180 into effect about 2 weeks ago and he has called to talk to my D4 two days in a row and spoke to me nicely..had been treating me like crap. He also asked my MIL how I was? I am trying not to get my hopes up but this is the nicest he has been to me in 8 weeks!