I haven't been posting much for some time but do check in to read sometimes. I was so sorry to read about your h stating his d intentions as I know how much that goes against your spiritual principles, in addition to the emotional impact.
A little spooky to come across your new thread tonight, just after I found an interesting insight on another forum. It certainly spoke to me, as someone else whose xh just can't seem to let go.
"This New Life is an ESCAPE from who he *is*. On some level, he KNOWS that. He doesn't know who he wants to BE yet, so he's careful (in a subconscious way) to not close any doors. Plus, if he makes his new life official, permanent, and REAL, and then he doesn't like that, what then? He's stuck with a new "real" he needs to run away from. So, the life with you has to remain a possibility in order for him to have something to escape FROM. Of course, what he's REALLY trying to escape from is inside of HIM, but he probably won't figure that out for a while."
And meantime, (as you and I know so well, having been at this the same length of time) we just go on with rebuilding our lives and truly living them wholeheartedly. Because as we know, even if they do want to come back at some point, we may never hear that from them (pride, shame etc), and by then it may be too late.
But I'm preaching to the converted!
Love and blessings
Jaybeexxxx
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
