LL, you sound good!! I know what you mean about the crap being the best ting. I too have seen a whole new me, independent, and hopefully h is seeing the new him. He is grocery shopping, laundry, paying bills, things he has not had to worry about for 24 yrs..I think things will be very different if he comes back-like sharing things.It is great that you have realized all this while you are still young, with young kids. I wish now we would have realized that we could have had our own activities then. Guess it is never too late. stay strong Sue
