30, I saw a post from you on another thread and I'm hear to give you my similar experiences. First of all, don't pressure her to let you come back, now or for quite a while. She will not trust you. She needs so much time to learn to trust you. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not make this mistake! My H cheated on me with a girl at work while we were engaged. We broke it off for a few months while he figured out what he wanted but now, SEVEN YEARS LATER, while he still works with old OW, we are going through this again. He is telling me that there is nothing going on with OW but they are becoming partners and he doesn't want to live the rest of his life having to worry whether I can handle it or not and actually, I told him I can't because she has acted so inappropriately around him at recent functions. I know she still loves him and would/will take him back in a second. So, both H and I agree now that we never dealt with it right the first time, we didn't take enough time to deal with it and now its blown up in our faces again! So, please, no matter how much you think you are OVER OW, you probably aren't. You need time and space also to grieve that relationship; no matter how good or bad it was. At the same time, your W needs 1-2 years to gain trust back and she will need your constant reassurance and I MEAN CONSTANT! You can't get mad at her for asking questions or bringing it up. Please get some books on affairs and healing after. Please go the dearpeggy.com and read everything she has on there. Please learn from my mistakes! Good luck and if you can read my sitch and give me some insight, I would greatly appreciate it too! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...true#Post929180
Rosy
Me 31 WAH 30 M 5 Together 14 years S 4 divorced 7/11/07
