LL, tired of waiting tired of waiting for you. A catchy toon. I dont think you have the music in your ears yet. You are still so tuned into his life that even if you do get him back it may not last. You have to hear the music playing for you. You need to start setting the boundries. Sunday football every weekend that is the first thing to go, sleeping 5 nights and leaving for 2. I see boundries all over the place being left unattended. If you are deciding to cut him off the sex then it really is over. If you dont want him as your h that is the best way to get rid of him.
I would love to have that man of your dreams that you described. He is out there my girlfriend has one. He is wonderful, just adores her. Would give her the skin off her back if she needed it. As wonderful as it is, it does come with many strings attached.
My H bag sat at the door for a very longtime, I didnt like it either. You have to try and understand that he still adores you and is more needy of you then you are of him. He is watching you and waiting for your direction. What do you want out of this relationship? What do you want? Dont accept anything less.
I had to set another boundry I thought I was finished. Mr.Selfish was being selfish again, being miserable so that our daughter was afraid to ask him for a ride home. I had to set another boundry, this is not acceptable behaviour. Yes I do get tired of having to guide the whole ship all the time. Someone has to do it. He accepted the boundry, The kids I told him come first. He said no I do. I said you come third I am last( But I am really first.) It went over well.
What I would do at this point is ask him for a weeks break, no contact at all. Set up a meeting place for a date and enjoy yourself like you are meeting this guy for the first time. I am rambling now, got to go. Good Luck Take care Loretta.
