Ladies, when you feel like you need to talk to them but are angry, etc., please back away from that urge and give them space and then give yourself some quality space. If your past arguments all were about arguing and a battle of wills, you won't get anywhere right now anyways. Please read some books on communicating with men and about seperations. A few that I've picked up are:
The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman The Five Ways to Apologize, Gary Chapman Breaking the Communication Barrier,???
There are so many books out there. Please, also get the Divorce Remedy and the Divorce Busters books and read those too. They will help you gain insight as to what is happening and make you feel stronger and more prepared for when you do have those "talks" with your H's.
Me 31 WAH 30 M 5 Together 14 years S 4 divorced 7/11/07