Quote: Another example is his Sunday night out. I don't think that is a battle you will ever win, so I would say whether you want to pick this one as your battle? It could take a very candid conversation between you two about his Sunday night out. You two may have to compromise with some sort of arrangement, like he hangs out with his buddies every other week or you do some party thing at your house. That is an unfortunate reality that we always have to compromise, no matter who you have an R.
last sunday I did say to him "why don't you get the game ticket (cable thing) that friend has... then that way you could have him here to watch the games too... then you'd be happy cause you get to watch the game with your buddy and I'd be happy cause you'd be here... I'd even make snacks for ya.... all I get is a maybe eventually i will...
whatever.... all the potential for a happy healthy fun marriage is here... h just doesn't know if he wants it or not.... went to ow for that "feeling" if that "feeling" is what he's waiting for it aint gonna happen.... to many years with me and their is no illusion of a r... there is a family and a home... something he never had with her... hell they were just "friends" I can't give him that... ther are responsibilities here... it is not all fun and games here...
he can have the world here.... you may not think it upon meeting me and seeing my outward ways... but the man lived like a king here... two happy kids attended to by me, a home attended to by me... good meals cooked and served by me.... family (his) entertained by me.... an attractive w who begged for sex... who wanted to go out and do stuff or hell stay home and do stuff.... he works... he plays... he had the life... he fd up by spending time with ow and leaving now has the opportunity to come home but is still fuing it up...
talked to a friend today and he said.... to air is human to forgive devine but to ignore forgiveness is just plain stupid...
I am willing to forgive h his wrongs and move on and be happy but I am not willing to hang on waiting for him to decide... come home and be happy... stop dragging me around or there will be no home for you to come home to... it will be the home of my children and i and you will be but a guest in it.
LL
ahhhh I feel better now!
h left at 1pm.... called at 6 but my gf was on the phone.... h called again at 825... all he could say was are you gonna watch the game... it's on channel bla bla I said i don't know I might or i might read... he said ok talk to you in the morning...
ya ok whatever!!
