fuuny thing sue is what you don't realize is that you right now have more than I do and did. so my h is trying to come home... while he was gone... he did not want to spend time with me... go out to dinner... I still do not know where his appartment is nevermind go out shopping for lamps for it... your h is still your friend... my h never was my friend and still isn't. what I have is what looks possitive to others simply because I've got a man who now stays here 5 nights a week. I don't have a h I have a man who isn't yet sure what he wants his life to be. I no longer know if I want to get to know this man... I've been waiting to long already. LL