Well my husband didn't live with me either....once he made the decision to go to the OW after having an EA for about 4 months previous to this....he walked out in the middle of the night so he didn't have to face the kids or my family....only me...
All I know is that in my case....things didn't look good....H was sure he never would live with me again....OW or not....he was done....
I can say that I am happy that I was able to stand the test of time so that when he did think about coming back and trying again I was still around....
Not to say I didn't hurt, suffer, and felt miserable for a long time....I greived the loss of my marriage....I worked on me being a better person and mom....and eventually I felt peace.... I don't think that would have come any sooner had I given totally up and divorced H or not....I think it was a necessary process that I needed to go through in order to heal and rebuild myself....
