To go through what you've went through over your big molehill, my W would have to get a nudge from me to get an issue out in the open, and for some reason, she would get over-defensive and upset over our major issues. Nice, huh?
I wish I could try CBT, but I haven't dealt with it before. It sounds like an interesting type of behavior therapy, and I could probably benefit from it myself!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~