Trust is going much better then I expected....I get panicky more about the concern that he might go out and drink alcohol then he might go find another woman...
He is at a point now where I can ask questions about OW and he will answer them for me....he just says he doesn't want to cause me anymore pain but he wants to answer any questions that I need answered in order to fully move on from all of this...
and yes...up and down days is pretty much the norm....until we find the security in our relationship again I think that is normal...
I think it would be nice for you to do something special for H at home....and you know what???....if you do it at home your not "going out" so no need for him to feel like he is celebrating with you and not her....just tell him you would like him to come home....that you don't want to go out...just have him home....if he wants to....
I like the idea about candle light dinner on the 13th...lol, that way he can again feel okay because he didn't spend the actual V-day celebrating with you....
I plan special things for H and I when I can....I think it is important....just like when you were courting/dating....
This next weekend I have us booked at a very expensive hotel...I do mystery shopping so I will get reimbursed for my expenses and we will have a great time on those Egyptian cotton sheets!!!!...also the Turkish towels and robes....oh and lets not forget the room service....and just for a finishing touch I am going to get him breakfast in bed the next morning!!!
I will be doing this the rest of our life together....he will never wonder if I really love him or not again....at least he better not!!!
I hope things continue going well for you....it will take time for H's feelings to go away for OW...I know it took my H a lot of time....but now he can say he has no love for her...he doesn't hate her but realizes that it wasn't what he thought it was after all....
